Leah Be studied with Lyndon Duke whereupon he passed on the skill sets and knowledge to deliver the Adversity Research material.
Lyndon Duke, difference maker
Byron Murray, likewise, studied with Lyndon and carries intimate knowledge of the constructs and paradigms.
This approach is about "language maps". The way you string words together create a map.
Do you get where you intend to go?
If you say you're generous, though cannot demonstrate what this means, the truth is in the conduct, not the words. You may intend generosity, yet actions don't follow.
That leads to seeing language as experience. Words become concrete experience. I want to lose weight, but if I don't exercise or watch my food intake, the words that are really running me are those guiding my behaviors. It's not as easy as it seems to be aware of internal language and what external events do to our self-talk.
I teach folks to increase awareness and am successful with advice towards producing a better life. I do this through introducing two key strategies to life and nine major families of inflammatory language along with the non-inflammatory equivalencies.
I talk about the crummy language that creates sadness and reduces productivity and happiness. I also introduce what it is that creates misery in our lives.
There are scientific techniques that when you use them, you'll be glad.
These have been tried in the toughest environments, i.e. dealing with suicidal thoughts or the loss of a loved one through suicide.
And you know this already - often we're unhappy, insecure, low in confidence, or miserable because we compare ourselves to others and the evaluation shows we are worse than (I'm not good enough) or so much better (I'm so much better) than someone else.
Some folks use such crummy language on themselves that it's on par with taking the claw side of a hammer down on their own back. Not pretty is it!?!
The code to use: don't say anything to yourself aloud or silently that you wouldn't say to a friend at a party.
With much respect and honor we include this tribute written by Bruce Abel of Eugene, Oregon:
Lyndon Duke, the founder of Adversity Research, a miracle man to some and a mystery man to others, died on January 24th, 2004 in Eugene, Oregon.
Lyndon cared deeply about his surviving two children, Mykki (Mikelle) and Alex. He was extremely proud of them. In addition to his children, he is survived by his loving and skilled granddaughter Kelsey, his brother Russell Duke, his sister Jean Frost, and his mother Esther Duke.
Lyndon was born September 12, 1941. He attained an education, completed two doctoral programs and became a renowned social scientist. Lyndon, however, stepped away from academia to study the immediate human experience to understand how we actually live our lives.
Lyndon was a community activist, supporting many social causes and worked with thousands of individuals to help them identify behaviors that limited their ability to find meaning and purpose in life. He urged people to define the differences they want to make and to develop a strategy for difference making. He helped people burdened by suicidal thoughts find new ways of living based on his “average person” philosophy. Thus those affected consolidated a life-time of grief into a more manageable eighteen months and replaced thoughts of suicide for many with more productive and effective language maps (ways to think).
Lyndon understood human suffering and dedicated his life to reducing human misery. He befriended everyone, he was generous and kind, and he worked daily to make small differences in the world. His great wisdom will be missed; the truths that he lived and shared will continue through the lives that he has influenced; his family and friends.
The culmination of his study was about achieving closeness and discovering how to love. His many friends are a testament to the depth of his soul. He said once, “Telling the truth about myself and living this truth is the greatest difference I can make”.
